Should I get a Boob Job?

Inspired by Bethany Robinson

Remember when everyone had eyelash extensions? I didn’t get them because it seemed like an unnecessary expense… but I found myself feeling a little more self-conscious of my appearance around some circles of women who had hopped on the eyelash band wagon.  Suddenly my regular old eyelashes didn’t quite seem to make the cut.  Because let’s be honest, the fake ones looked kind of fabulous.   How awesome was it that these women could roll out of bed looking hyper-feminine without so much as going near their make-up bags… and when they did whip the make-up bags out, it was like, “Hello Disney princess, Goodbye regular old human.”

I’m now starting to feel similarly about boob jobs.  Especially now that I have a couple of kids, I’m hearing about more and more people in my age category who have either purchased their new and improved breasts, or who have a boob job savings in place for when they’ve finished having kids.  It makes sense to me.  I mean, you just made this huge contribution to society by giving birth to your children, and doing so left your breasts looking particularly sub-par, so why shouldn’t you at least get that part of yourself back?  And even though your husband loves you the way you are, isn’t it only fair to both of you that he should be able to enjoy your body in its’ more perfect form?  And since it’s pretty expensive, you don’t want to be wasteful by going back to an A or B cup.  You should probably go up to at least a C or a D, because you want to look good in clothes too, don’t you?   Especially if you’re a fit person, you should have the boobs that you want, because you’ve worked so hard (or have been lucky enough) to be able to maintain your body throughout pregnancy. Besides, as far as surgery’s go, the risks are pretty minimal.

Am I right girls?

These are the arguments that I hear from myself and other women (and even my husband while attempting to comfort me) on a regular basis.  But despite how convincing they sound to someone who’s feeling insecure after pregnancy and breastfeeding, I can’t get rid of that sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach when I hear them. I think sometimes what I really want to hear instead is that I look amazing because I look real.  I want to hear that my children look better beside me than any bit of perfectly shaped silicone or saline ever could. I want to hear that I should stop being insecure and be more adoring of the body that allows me to do everything that I do each day and still dream to accomplish even more.  I want to hear that I should celebrate my physical flaws with all of my personal attributes because, from them, I learn acceptance (And how can I be accepting of others when I don’t accept myself?)  I want to hear that my body is strong; that my body is capable. I want to hear that when I’m old, I can still love my body, just like I can love it after having children.

Everyone loves the feminist message in Disney’s Frozen that “true love” doesn’t have to come from prince charming to break a spell. The love of a sister, in Anna’s case at least, does the trick rather nicely.  So why do I feel like I have to wait for men (and society in general) to be okay with the way my body is before I can be?  Sisters, we’re lying to ourselves if we think this body image thing is out of our control.  Just like foot binding and corsets (historical bodily manipulations that posed health risks and physical limitations for the sake of hyper-feminine beauty), this boob job trend is being supported by women. And it’s not our mothers who sign us up for breast implants for the sake of an advantageous match…  It’s just us.

I hope no woman reading this feels like I’m trying to tell her what to do with her body. I think what you choose to do to make yourself feel beautiful is a personal choice.  But at the very least we can start with affirming each other in the qualities that matter most and focus a little less on the physical.

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7 Responses to “Should I get a Boob Job?”

  1. Val says:

    I will never understand why historically women have fought so hard so that they and future generations of women will be free from objectification. With all of our modern freedoms it is fascinating to me that so many women choose to objectify themselves by putting so much emphasis on physical appearance.

    • Jen Bowden says:

      Yes. This issue of objectifying ourselves isn’t new. It seems to me that every time women in society look for ways to get away from the conceptualized idea that they are subject to men, we always seem to circle ourselves right back to where we started. How can we expect to fight against negative stereotypes when we seek out behaviours and attitudes that only affirm the concept that a woman is equal to her physical appearance?

  2. Dani Henry says:

    Just wanted to let you know this blog is everything I have wanted in a blog. You are writing relevant thoughts to every person out there and I am grateful for someone putting into words my feeling that I hardly understand haha!

    • Jen Bowden says:

      Thanks for the compliment Dani! It’s fitting that you are one of the first people to comment on here because it was something you posted on facebook that initially got me thinking about starting a blog. So basically, this is all because of you! I love that you’re enjoying the process with me!

  3. Jasmine says:

    Why have I not known about your blog earlier?!? You’ve taken so many thoughts and feelings I’ve had at some point and written them so eloquently. Seriously Jen. You’re onto something here.

    • Jen Bowden says:

      You didn’t know because the blog was sleeping while I was pregnant… Haha. Too tired to write. I’m sure you can relate! Thanks for commenting on the actual blog Jasmine! Most people comment on facebook… which is good too. But I love comments on the blog the very most 🙂

  4. Valerie Thomson says:

    Every once and a while people say to me…”you look fabulous for having 8 children!”, I correct them as say, “Actually, I just look fabulous”. I mean it an a way that Jen has so nicely but strongly put it in her blog. 🙂

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